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Re: sexuality |
xblack_heartx
Date:
2008-03-31
Time: 04:05:14
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you can't be responsible for how other people
act darlin. You just tell them and let
things happen as they will. If they don't
accept your life or who you are that if for
them to deal with. You have to decide how
long you want to live by someone else's
standards. |
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Re: sexuality |
harpicpulpa
Date:
2008-03-31
Time: 06:24:24
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ı thınk fırst you need to
talk a psycologıst..then you can
decıde the way how you do ıt..
ın fact soemtımes ın our early
perıod of age
we prefer to be lesbıans..ı was the
one
NOW ıam straıght..
every female ıs alıttle
lesbıan and can easıly turn on
wıth theır naked body
please fırst
take a professıonal advıce..
goodluck hun...xxxxxxx |
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Re: sexuality |
suze
Date:
2008-03-31
Time: 08:41:57
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be proud of yer sexuality
however is it necessary to tell yer parents?
i never told my parents im straight (well st8
ish ) so why would u want to tell urs that
u arent?
whatever u decide good luck
xx |
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Re: sexuality |
luckylips1
Date:
2008-03-31
Time: 10:26:36
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good point suze but with gay/ lesbians its
different isnt it. it would be good if
everyone thought of it as 'normal' and didnt
bat an eyelid.
your parent love you so im sure they wont
have a problem with it.
some parents are open to the idea and some
arent.
you know your parents better than any of us
so just say what comes naturally when you
speak to them. |
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Re: sexuality |
belluci
Date:
2008-03-31
Time: 10:40:44
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Talk to a psychologist???
Was that a joke?
I hope it was.
Being gay isn't a mental health issue.
If you're going to find it hard to tell your
parents, I suggest you write them a long
letter explaining your feelings, then go out
for a few hours while they take in what
you've written.
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Re: sexuality |
lil_red_gem
Date:
2008-03-31
Time: 10:47:38
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Before you tell them, you could tell them
that you have something very important to
tell them, and could they please hear you
out, without interupting or shouting at you.
It's not like it's a lifestyle choice.
You are who and what you are, it's nothing
that they have or haven't done, and it
doesn't change who you are inside.
If they love you, like i should imagine they
do, after the shock has worn off, and they
have asked their questions, things may get
back to normal pretty quickly.
Personally, if any of my kids told me, i
wouldn't bat an eyelid - i'd be like "is that
it? I thought that you were going to tell me
something really bad!"
But only you know your parents - they may
even surprise you!
Good luck with whatever you decide. |
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Re: sexuality |
belluci
Date:
2008-03-31
Time: 10:48:28
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It might seem like a daft idea (a letter) but
what you DON'T want is to put your parents on
the spot where you end up getting a negative
reaction.
Remember, by telling them you are gay, you
are also telling them that they are unlikely
to have any grandchildren.
Good luck. |
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Re: sexuality |
slowchemical
Date:
2008-03-31
Time: 14:38:10
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just cut your hair all short and spikey, die
it red and blue, and buy a big ass pair of
baggy jeans.. they will get the idea!
alternativly, seperate them, whichever one
you think will take it best, tell them first
and see if they have any idea about how you
should tell the other one. say you tell your
mum first and she accepts it, you have an
ally who knows how to get around your father
while you tell him.
i always find telling individuals easier than
telling groups. a person is smart, but people
are stupid. |
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Re: sexuality |
kerridevil
Date:
2008-04-16
Time: 08:37:43
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hiya my name is keri and i am bisexual it
took me 4 years before i found the courage to
tell my family and is was not till i was in a
long term relationship with my ex girlfriend
that i finally told my family my mum was
funny at first but she came round but the
rest of my family were great. my mum was only
funny as she thought i was only doing it to
[censored] her off as we had a love hate
relationship at the time. when id been with
my ex for 3yrs we got a sperm doner and i
becaame pregnant with my nmow 3yr old
daughter sadly when she was nearly 2 we split
up but now im in my first proper relationship
with a man and things are going great im
pregnant with twins and couldnt be happier,
if yo want my advice then i suggest you sit
down with a relative who you trust and are
close with and tell them this way you may
know the reactio you will get from the rest
of your family. do any of your friends know
and are you iin a relationship at the momunt. |
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Re: sexuality |
zoe_24_uk
Date:
2008-04-17
Time: 02:17:02
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When you finally tell, and they start to
create a fuss, which you think they will or
you wouldn't have posted, you could try this
in your defence: any relationship consists of
two main parts, 1) companionship and 2)
intimacy. With 1, gender is irrelevant, and
2, it is nothing to do with anybody else what
happens between you and your partner in
private.
I'm guessing but the main reason for their
unhappiness will probably be purely selfish,
i.e. you won't be providing them with
grandkids or 'What will people think of us
when they know we have a lesbian daughter.'
Hope it comes ok for you. |
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